I want to know if what I am about to say is love. I am with my fiancé for four years. We were living together until I left Jamaica to live overseas. Every year I go to Jamaica to be with him and to take care of him. And even though I live overseas, I have never cheated on him or talk to another man.
Pastor, some tragedy occurred in my family and I had to go to Jamaica. And while I was there, I found evidence that he sent post card and photos to someone who has his last name. I knew something was wrong. To cut a long story short, I found out that he got married for over a year. I asked him about it and he told me that he got married to get his papers to live abroad, but it was not for love. But, pastor, he had asked me to marry him and we were planning our wedding for the year 2014. So I asked him why he did not tell me that he got married. And he said he didn’t want to hurt me because he would get through and go away, then divorce her and marry me.
I got hold of the woman’s number and I called her and she told me he was lying to me. I told him what the lady said and that I would leave him; he said no I should not leave him because the marriage is not for love. He cried and begged me to stay with him. This woman is 20 years older than he is. I don’t know what to do because I love him, but I know he has been lying to me for a long time.
He calls me each morning and we talk until I reach work. When I am on break at work, he calls. And when I leave work until I reach home, we talk. And we talk at night. He is so jealous. He told me that if I should leave him he would find me and I won’t be able to come back to Jamaica. My kids love him, so I cannot even tell them what he has done to me.
You know this man is a liar. So why would you believe what he says to you about his marriage? Perhaps he found this lady and got married to her because he wasn’t sure whether you would marry him. Perhaps he got married to her because he believes that he would get to America faster. Could it be that he is getting money from this woman?
The reason he has given you for marrying her is very poor and it doesn’t make any sense. The woman has told you that he is lying to you. It is really up to you to decide what you should do. He behaves as if he is a con man. What do you think?
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